The Comparison Trap

Have you ever compared yourself to another person, maybe a celebrity, by thinking she’s much prettier and more beautiful than you? Most people have! Have you ever found yourself wishing that you were as beautiful as a model or a celebrity?

Many people compare themselves to others by wishing they would look more beautiful or be as popular as someone else. The trap is that as long as you compare yourself to others, you’ll always feel like you don’t quite measure up. That can cause us to feel bad about ourselves if we measure our beauty only from outward appearance.

Ezekiel 16:13-14 says:

“You were very beautiful and became a queen. Then you became famous among the nations, because you were so beautiful. Your beauty was perfect, because of the glory I gave you, says the Lord God.”

This Bible verse tells us that your beauty is made perfect by God’s glory, His character in you and His opinion of you. That is true beauty, not the outside beauty like makeup, clothes and hairstyles.

So when you understand how precious you are in Jesus’ eyes, you won’t need to compare yourself to others anymore. So accept yourself the way you are, and listen to God’s opinion of you, not people’s.

As Theodore Roosevelt once said:

“Comparison is the thief of joy”

The only thing comparison does is to steal our joy. It finds someone who is better than you at certain things-the exact things that you really like doing or feel like you are good at and steals your joy.

This post in an excerpt from my book The One Who Is Always Near and has also been published on the world’s largest website and community for Christian girls, Project Inspired:

5 thoughts on “The Comparison Trap

  1. Awesome piece! This is something that I’m currently dealing with. It’s more about liking a certain guy but this guy likes a certain type of girl even though he hint that he wants something more with me. I do need to stop comparing myself to those women and just be myself. Thanks for the reminder!

    1. Thanks so much for commenting lovesparksstrength! We are completely enough in ourselves, we are made whole by God and not other humans. But I know it can be so hard to remember especially because we are not always able to identify our father’s love in our lives. I have struggled with this myself. I will be praying for you!
      Hope you have an amazing day 🙂

  2. Love this post, Ida! A verse that helps me a lot with comparison is this:

    “Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original”. (‭Galatians‬ ‭5‬:‭25-26‬ MSG)

    I used to struggle a lot with comparing myself to there until I read this verse. There’s a post called “The Thief of Joy” in my blog, if you’d like to read it 🙂

    Thank you so much for sharing this!

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