Over the past many months I think we all have seen it.
The Instagram stories and posts that tell that either you’ll be blocked if you don’t agree or you are asked to unfollow if you disagree.
And yes, I understand these posts are usually regarding things, I just as much as you probably, wish we could all agree on. But that’s simply just not always the case.
But maybe asking people to leave when they disagree solves nothing. We just distance ourselves further.
What if we instead could have a respectful conversation about the things we disagree on and are able to listen the things that have caused the other person to have the views that they have.
Yes, I might unfollow if I disagree but could we maybe, just maybe, first talk about it and see how much or how little we actually disagree?
Maybe an unfollow button won’t solve anything.
Maybe blocking people doesn’t make them change their mind but only makes the disagreement bigger?
Maybe could it be that we have to hold our tender feelings back and actually talk about it before we click on a button?
Because when we engage in dehumanizing rhetoric or promote dehumanizing images, we first of all dimish our own humanity in the process and secondly we only fuel the disconnection because we sort people based on assumptions.
- Maybe it’s a misunderstanding. Maybe it’s not.
- Maybe you don’t know what made the other person come to that understanding.
- Maybe a word was used unintentionally.
- Maybe the other person has never heard a counter-argument on the matter and have the opinion they have because they don’t know better.
My hope with writing all of this and my challenge to you, as well as to myself is: Let’s try to bridge some of the gaps we have made so big in this time by simply asking before leaving. Because truth is, people are hard to hate close up.
” Listen to understand. Not to agree or disagree. “Brené Brown
If you want to read more about this, I highly recommend for you to read “Braving the Wilderness“ by Brené Brown.