I am reminded of our human nature every single day. Our striving for looking our best, looking like we are succeeding in life and living our dream out. We constantly try to look our best on social media. To showcase our best and most curated version of ourselves. The stories behind our accomplishments and every day life, all the tears that has been shedding, all the angry words that has been sad rarely make it to social media. And it is not only applicable for social media. In our real life we do the same. We try to make a good impression on those around us by being happy and being our best.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to and striving for looking our best and make our pictures do the same. It glorifies God when we use the talents and gifts He has given us. But the problem is when it makes us strive for perfection, when we begin to compare the lows of our lives to the highs that is constantly posted and we begin to feel less and feel like we are not enough.
I am guilty of following this trend myself. But let me be honest. There is so much more to my life than what I post on Instagram.
I might look perfectly tan on Instagram, but the real story is, that my tan is like that , but also because of the light treatment I am in because of a skin disease. I might look perfectly thin, but true story is, that a only a couple years ago I was very close to being unhealthy underweight. I might look perfectly happy (which I also am when the photo is taken), but the days before my eyes might have been swollen from crying. The lighting might look beautiful, but that is because of editing programs and apps I use.
The power of being honest
Sharing our real life moments and our authentic self is where freedom starts. For ourselves and for those around us. Oh how much could change if only we all were honest about our struggles and what we go through.
I have seen the power of honesty in my own life. When a heartbroken friend shared some really hard stuff she was going through with me. I was tempted to keep up the image of being perfect, but I decided to skip it and told her that it reminded me of some hard stuff I had been going through myself. That I to some extent could relate. And those words changed the course of her life. She now knew she was not alone and that there were other people who had overcome the struggle she was facing. It encouraged her. It made her realize that she was not alone. And that life was worth living. Staying in the fight was worth it.
So don’t tell me honesty and vulnerability don’t have power. Being honest might change more than you can ever imagine. By admitting our struggles we admit we are not perfect and that we need help – that we need God. God needs people who are willing to admit they are imperfect in order to show who He really is – PERFECT.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2. Corinthians 12:9-10
Healing starts with honesty and confession:
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” James 5:16
If We’re Honest
Following lyrics from the song “If We’re Honest” by Francesca Battistelli sums it all up perfectly:
Truth is harder than a lie
The dark seems safer than the light
And everyone has a heart that loves to hide
I’m a mess and so are you
We’ve built walls nobody can get through
Yeah, it may be hard, but the best thing we could ever do, ever do
Bring your brokenness, and I’ll bring mine
‘Cause love can heal what hurt divides
And mercy’s waiting on the other side
If we’re honest
Don’t pretend to be something that you’re not
Living life afraid of getting caught
There is freedom found when we lay
Our secrets down at the cross, at the cross
It would change our lives
It would set us free
It’s what we need to be